If I were to give any advice on how to be a more content family, it would include taking Dr. Justin Coulsons advice (see video) as follows:
1. SHOW LOVE.
As Dr. Coulson points out, children spell the word love, T-I-M-E. We are all time poor nowadays, so this is where I am making a conscious choice to spend more TIME with my kids. However, this doesn't necessarily mean increasing the time spent with them. It means being really being present when I am with them. Which really means, putting down the devices to actually look at them, to actively listen to them, to talk to them, to play with them (which often includes Barbie!), to laugh with them, and even includes doing mundane chores together as 'Team Fennelly'.
2. Set LIMITS.
This is often more challenging, however I love the way he got his daughter to think about how to behave and come up with an appropriate solution herself, rather than him dictating. When we 'tell' our kids what to do, it can often be met with a brick wall response. Instead, try asking them questions - this allows them to find the answers within themselves and you may be surprised to discover, they are often on the same page as you if they had to truthfully answer. That's coaching your child.
3. LAUGHTER.
To have more fun with my kids. To not take life too seriously and relax more with them. My girls love to dance and the best dancing in our house is when their Daddy does the robot dance!! They bend over with laughter and you can't help yourself, but to laugh also (Sorry B!!)
Being aware of the small changes that you can make when you are around your children and teens can make a world of difference to them and to you...
Isn't it worth giving a it a go...? Go for it!!!
Have a great day
Sharon x 😎
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